If there is something I’ve learned throughout this adoption process is to EXPECT NOTHING. That doesn’t mean that we won’t continue to move forward and be the best advocates to bring our son home, but nothing has been rationale about this entire journey.
For the next nine days, Patrick and I are throwing a Hail Mary. We are trying to get our referral before the end of the month. It is highly unlikely and we have no control over anything, but we’re going for it with very low expectations. But also trusting in God’s timing.
Here’s the scoop:
Two weeks ago, we learned that we are matched with 3-year-old J. But before we get our formal referral which provides more information about J and allows us to travel to Haiti to meet him, we have to update our Home Study and get it approved by immigration (USCIS). Our current home study only allows us to receive a referral for a child between the ages 0-2.
Working with our adoption agency, we updated our home study last week to request a child between the ages 0-4. I received the new home study this morning and just sent it by overnight mail to USCIS for their approval.
Here’s where it gets tricky. We need the following to happen in a very short time period because the Director of IBESR is going on vacation the entire month of August (really?). Before we receive our referral, we need the Director to sign it.
1. We need USCIS to review our updated home study and approve it ASAP.
2. We need USCIS to be willing to email our adoption coordinator the approval (vs. snail mail to us).
3. Our USCIS approval needs to be sent to Haiti (IBESR).
4. IBESR needs to accept the emailed version of the USCIS approval.
5. IBESR needs to provide us our referral. We don’t if our referral is already prepared and signed and just waiting on this USCIS approval. Or if it is just prepared, but not signed. In which case, they need to collect four signatures from various people at IBESR. Or perhaps it is not prepared at all and won’t be until some unknown time.
Hail Mary = long shot. But it’s worth it. Pray for speedy approvals please!