Famous Last Words

Our Adoption Journey to Haiti

Cheech and Chong December 20, 2013

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When we became parents, we anticipated the joy that we would experience as a result of our personal relationship with our child.  But what we did not anticipate was the joy in witnessing the relationship between siblings.

We sometimes affectionately and obviously inappropriately refer to our boys as Cheech and Chong. They are quite a pair. I am not quite sure what one would do without the other.

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To some degree, we have engineered their close relationship. Since Brady was 11 months old, the boys have shared a room. In fact, until about one month ago, they both slept on one twin mattress on the bottom bunk.  Both of the boys were too scared to sleep on the top bunk and enjoyed the proximity of sharing a bed. However, Noah recently hit a growth spurt and now has man legs, so he needs more space.  We took down the bunk beds so Cheech and Chong can sleep in their own twin bed.

They have both always gone to the same in-home daycare. We prefer the home daycare setting for a number of reasons, but the most important one is that the boys are always together.  Now that Noah is in Kindergarten and not with Brady all day, it’s been a hard adjustment for them.

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They each bring something different to the relationship.  Noah, as the older brother, sets the tone.  He is kind, generous, and inclusive.  If Noah goes to a birthday party without Brady, he will always dedicate half of his goodie bag to his brother.  As the oldest child, he has bossy tendencies and believes that is it his job to co-parent Brady with us. We have to remind him that we are Brady’s parents and he can just relax and not worry about putting his brother in timeout.

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Brady is fiercely loyal and wants to be just like his “brudder”.  He is light-hearted and spunky, which helps to bring out a silly side of Noah, who is often very serious.  Being three-years-old, Brady is naturally an egomaniac.  He is the fairness police and strictly monitors very serious issues like who gets to brush their teeth first.  Should there ever be an injustice in our home, we can rest assured that Brady will bring it to our attention.

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Adding a third child will undoubtedly affect the dynamic duo.  But we are looking forward to watching Noah and Brady love and grow with another sibling.

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Big Deal December 18, 2013

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We learned that we hit another milestone yesterday in our adoption – and this is a big one in the Haitian adoption process.  Last Friday, December 13, our dossier was submitted to the Haitian adoption agency, IBESR.

Our adoption agency, America World, submitted the dossier. And at the same time, our crèche (orphanage), submitted a suggested referral (child) for our family.  This means there is a child attached to our family right now!  Is it a boy or girl?  What trauma has this little child faced so far in life? We will not know who this child is for several months. IBESR has to do all of the appropriate vetting of our family and of this child’s circumstance to ensure everything is ethical.

Here is our updated timeline:

  1. Complete dossier – check
  2. Dossier translated – check
  3. Dossier authenticated by Haitian Consulate – check
  4. Dossier mailed to lawyer at our crèche, Foyer de Sion – check
  5. Dossier legalized at Ministry of Foreign Affairs (MOFA) – check
  6. Dossier submitted to IBESR

Here’s what’s coming….

  1. We wait for our referral
  2. We accept our referral and our dossier leaves ISEBR and goes to parquet (pre-court).  After we accept our referral we go to Haiti to visit our child
  3. We leave parquet and go to real court
  4. We then go to the Ministry of Interior legalization process – I have no idea what this even means?
  5. Then we go to the Ministry of Interior – again, huh?
  6. We then get our passport for our child and do a Visa interview
  7. Then we bring our child home
 

One Step Closer December 4, 2013

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I learned last night that we are one step closer in our adoption process!  Our dossier was legalized.  Our next step is that our adoption agency submits our dossier to IBESR (Haitian adoption agency). At the same time, our crèche submits a recommended referral (a specific child) for our family.  We will not receive our referral until it is official through IBESR, which will be several months from now.

Here is our updated timeline:

  1. Complete dossier – check
  2. Dossier translated – check
  3. Dossier authenticated by Haitian Consulate – check
  4. Dossier mailed to lawyer at our crèche, Foyer de Sion – check
  5. Dossier legalized at Ministry of Foreign Affairs (MOFA) – check

Here’s what’s coming….

  1. Our dossier is then submitted to the Haitian adoption government agency – ISEBR
  2. We wait for our referral (which means a picture and information about a child)
  3. We accept our referral and our dossier leaves ISEBR and goes to parquet (pre-court).  After we accept our referral we go to Haiti to visit our child
  4. We leave parquet and go to real court
  5. We then go to the Ministry of Interior legalization process – I have no idea what this even means?
  6. Then we go to the Ministry of Interior – again, huh?
  7. We then get our passport for our child and do a Visa interview
  8. Then we bring our child home
 

 
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