When we became parents, we anticipated the joy that we would experience as a result of our personal relationship with our child. But what we did not anticipate was the joy in witnessing the relationship between siblings.
We sometimes affectionately and obviously inappropriately refer to our boys as Cheech and Chong. They are quite a pair. I am not quite sure what one would do without the other.
To some degree, we have engineered their close relationship. Since Brady was 11 months old, the boys have shared a room. In fact, until about one month ago, they both slept on one twin mattress on the bottom bunk. Both of the boys were too scared to sleep on the top bunk and enjoyed the proximity of sharing a bed. However, Noah recently hit a growth spurt and now has man legs, so he needs more space. We took down the bunk beds so Cheech and Chong can sleep in their own twin bed.
They have both always gone to the same in-home daycare. We prefer the home daycare setting for a number of reasons, but the most important one is that the boys are always together. Now that Noah is in Kindergarten and not with Brady all day, it’s been a hard adjustment for them.
They each bring something different to the relationship. Noah, as the older brother, sets the tone. He is kind, generous, and inclusive. If Noah goes to a birthday party without Brady, he will always dedicate half of his goodie bag to his brother. As the oldest child, he has bossy tendencies and believes that is it his job to co-parent Brady with us. We have to remind him that we are Brady’s parents and he can just relax and not worry about putting his brother in timeout.
Brady is fiercely loyal and wants to be just like his “brudder”. He is light-hearted and spunky, which helps to bring out a silly side of Noah, who is often very serious. Being three-years-old, Brady is naturally an egomaniac. He is the fairness police and strictly monitors very serious issues like who gets to brush their teeth first. Should there ever be an injustice in our home, we can rest assured that Brady will bring it to our attention.
Adding a third child will undoubtedly affect the dynamic duo. But we are looking forward to watching Noah and Brady love and grow with another sibling.